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I've had a wonderful time here in Upper Michigan. We swam in the lake, did some thrift-shopping, got new swimsuits, visited friends and in-laws, I got plenty of reading done, went for some scenic drives, and I even visited an island! Well, a small one, attached to the mainland by a small bridge. So, technically I did visit an island but it didn't involve overcoming any of my fears like riding in a boat. Next time maybe.

The friend who has been checking in on our cat while we're gone said she managed to lure him out of hiding only once. She managed to snap a few pictures of him, then he scooted behind the couch and stayed there. I was so grateful to see the pictures though, his big eyes and his little pink mouth, just to see that he is okay and exactly as I remember him. I can't wait to see him tomorrow after the long drive.

While staying at Husband's parents' house, we did get to spend time with his sister's dog, Pepper. Pepper is a black lab, three years old, and she's kinda funny. She never barks, she likes to balance her toys on her paws while she lies on her back, and she shies away from being petted. My dad-in-law says when he takes her for a walk, she occasionally likes to sit down and people-watch. Mid-walk, she will plop down to watch people go into the church, not resuming the walk until the people are gone. He said once some guys were doing work on the roof of the church, and Pepper had to sit down and watch them for a long time before she could be coaxed to keep walking. While we've been here, she's mostly been aloof toward us but a couple times she randomly got excited and started jumping on us while we sat on the couch, leaving a long scratch on my thigh, oof!

Once we get home, we have a lot to think about and do. We have been thinking about moving here to Upper Michigan to be closer to Husband's family, and just to return to the place we grew up. It turns out one of our friend's parents is looking to sell their house, and Husband says it's a nice house and a good deal. We've also hear they need more workers up here, lot of job openings. We'd have to start making decisions quick, though. I personally do want to move back to Michigan, but I'll miss some things about Illinois, and I'm sure I'll have to fight a plethora of anxious thoughts that will come up during the process of moving. Speaking of anxiety though, I've had very little of it since we got here! This trip has done a lot for my confidence. This is no time to get lazy though, I'll have to keep pushing to make more progress.

When we do move, I won't miss the bajillion cicadas that come out every summer. Their buzzing is so loud you can't even have a conversation outside without raising your voice, and you can still hear them through the closed windows when you're trying to watch TV. I won't miss all the trash people leave on the ground here.

But there are some things I will miss, like the lack of mosquitos, the excellent hospitals and doctors that use the most modern methods, are equipped to handle basically anything, AND you don't have to drive an hour or more to reach them. I will miss the diversity, hearing people speak Hindi and Russian and Korean and Polish, going to restaurants and markets for food from around the world. I will miss the local library, which they're constantly improving and adding more resources to. I will miss being surrounded by people who take Covid-19 seriously, and who don't believe in conspiracy theories about devil-worshipping child-abusing pizza vendors. At least Husband's side of the family isn't like that, but a lot of my family is.

Well now I've gone and made myself sad! So here is a nice poem I discovered during this trip:


Stalker of Shadows
by Kenneth A. White

In the silence of my steamy club,
I stood serenely showering in my tub,
When I heard a shuffle.
A quaint, distinctly faint,
Softly padded shuffle,
On my brick-red rug and linoleum floor.
Then again a sound,
Muted and muffled,
Akin to crickets creeping close to a lion's roar.
To wit I peeked out and found,
That young cat I so adore,
Patroclus, playfully pounding back out the door.
Back to the ritual of rub and rinse,
When yet still his coy presence I could sense,
Stalking the shadows of my showering chore.
Quietly creeping,
Slowly sweeping across my bathroom floor.
And just as before
His playful plot again commenced.
For I was sure I heard the soft storm
Of padded paws pouncing upon porcelain form.
And from closed, soapy eyes did I imagine,
A tiny, dark and furry feline dragon,
Proudly perched atop that ivory throne,
Whose use this was not intended for.
From amidst the mist of foam,
That image twisted my lips into silent smirking,
That predator force so quietly lurking,
Searching for his perfect score.
Then gently came a scratching,
As if Nugent's fever ever was catching,
Latching upon my shower curtain tail.
And lifting it, as if certain to prevail,
He did not stall, he did not pause,
Nor did he fail,
Ears laid back and outstretched claws,
Did that cat sail,
And through the veil he was cast,
Crashing with a sorry splash,
Lashing out a loathsome wail.
Tables turned from hunter to prey,
This game he suddenly did not want to play.
His feet comically fought for gripping,
Slipping in the shower head spray,
Nearly tripping me in his angst to get away.
Finding purchase he so desperately needed,
In his escape he finally succeeded,
And fled the soggy scene
For the comfort of a cozy towel,
Where he licked himself dry and clean.
No longer the proud predator on prowl,
He looked upon me with wounded scowl.
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It's another beautiful day in paradise. We walked along the beach, visited a flea market, and I got a lavender sachet to put in my backpack. Previously I had kept a small bottle of lavender essential oil in there, but the smell was so strong and I was always worried it might eventually leak. This sachet is softer in scent, has no liquid to leak, and I can refresh it with the oil when it starts to fade. Plus, I'm happy to support local crafters while I'm here.

I've been enjoying the second book in the Sovereign Stone trilogy by Margaret Weis and Tracy Hickman. Husband found Mario All-Stars for Switch at the library and rented it, which means for the first time ever I can play Mario 64, Super Mario Sunshine, and Mario Galaxy! Husband's parents have been spoiling us both, cooking us whatever we want to eat. Husband and I have been spending lots of quality time together.

I think I've been doing a good job appreciating vacation, but my anxious brain still tries to interrupt with "what if" thoughts, and questioning whether or not everything is really okay.
"What if I get too hot on this walk? Am I okay? What if I get too thirsty? What if I'm not okay? What if I have a panic attack in this store, right in front of everybody? What if I ruin this whole vacation?"

Turning my attention back to my breath has worked, but I even had an anxious thought about that: What if my nose is ever stuffy and I can't breathe peacefully through it like usual? What if I get a cold and I have a sore throat and have to breathe through my mouth, which will irritate my throat even more?

It's true, I've panicked plenty of times while sick because of discomfort in my throat, and feeling like I couldn't breathe normally. But I've also gotten through sickness without panicking; that was while I was enrolled in a hospital program for people dealing with anxiety, OCD, PTSD, and phobias. While I was in that program, I became the most confident I had been in years about my mental health. Every day I was learning, getting braver, surrounded by other people like me, and mental health professionals. I felt like I could do anything. But it's been a couple years since then, and it's been up to me to remember what I learned there and to apply it. Then Covid happened, and suddenly I had a reason to avoid all my fears again, avoid other people, avoid going out, avoid germs, avoid doing anything but staying home and staying safe.

It's like everything's been reset and is scary again. Just gotta keep trying. Stay present, don't resist, let everything flow right through you.
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I'm grateful that the traffic was fine, the weather was fine, and I didn't have a panic attack! I kept myself busy playing games, listening to music, reading, doing a wordsearch, and playing the alphabet game. We drove by a bald eagle that was eating roadkill in the middle of the road, and that's the closest I've ever seen one.
When we arrived at our destination, I was so happy. It's nice and cool here, much cooler than Illinois, and there are no cicadas! It felt good to go for a long walk after being stuck in the car for so long. The trees here are huge. I'm feeling optimistic about this vacation. The only thing that makes me sad is that we couldn't bring the cat with. Someone will be checking in on him, but it still sucks.

Thanks everyone for the well wishes!
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This is my first post here. In two days I will be trapped in a car for six hours as my husband and I drive to another state to visit family. I'm afraid I'll panic in the car, as I have before. In case of panic, I plan to bring small paper bags to breathe into, a small bottle of lavender essential oil to sniff, a book to read and a Nintendo Switch to distract me. I was also recently gifted a free 3-month trial of Youtube Premium, so I will download some videos to watch on the trip, also to help distract me from my fears. I'll wear my green Tara necklace, it's a carved pendant of green Tara with lots of beads on the cord. I hope it will remind me that everything is okay, not to resist my fears but to face them with loving kindness and curiosity. It will also give me something to fidget with.

Once we arrive, we'll be staying with my husband's parents. While we're there, we'll have opportunities to cross things off my bucket list, like explore a cave, visit an island, go camping. My anxiety has been pretty high lately, so all of them seem frightening. My life has up and downs when it comes to panic, and I've gone years without panicking, but lately it seems much harder and I've had several panic attacks in the last three months. I hope venting here will help me, and I look forward to reading other journals here.

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